From Sora and Yuki's problems that people needed help on, I started to realize that books aren't the major emotional thing in life -well, sometimes I might disagree with that because we tend to fan girl over shippings and losses-.
I also realized that living in this dramatic world we have problems with just so many things. Somethings that we have problems with are moving, changing schools, not being able to fit in, have your friends dump you, or just not having anyone to rely on. These are all things that happen and they can affect our lives in big ways.
I have faced all of the things that I mentioned. It's true. I was called "fat" and my face isn't a natural beauty. I know this. Please don't be afraid to ask for some help.
I won't judge. I was always the fair one in my groups. I don't want to bias my opinions, so I don't. It helps to release those feelings. Do not let them well up inside of you, open up! :). I'll be right here. You can stay anonymous.
~Kiku
Hi Kiku. I have this friend who thinks s/he's all that. I want to tell her/him stop bragging...but I don't want to hurt her/his feelings at the same time. What should I do?
ReplyDeleteHi, fellow Star,
DeleteI know people like that too! I always wanted to help them understand that in the world not everyone can tolerate the behavior like your friend gives off. I totally know what you are going through.
Friendship can be a pain when you don't like something about the other person. About this there are several ways to approach it.
I would suggest that you do not say it directly to them. Ask them how they feel about their actions. Maybe tell them that you can't deal with it anymore. That might hurt them, but if your friend starts to know what you are doing then your effort is not wasted.
Another thing would be is to try to hang out with them more. They will start to accept your ideas too! I have friendly disagreements with my friend all the time. They help your friendship grow because you start to understand each other.
~Kiku (I hope that this helped)!
Dear Kiku,
ReplyDeleteHi. I have this friend who is really good at everything. We have been friends for a long time now. My friend just transferred in this year. She stuck around me a lot. Lately, she has been ignoring me. She seems more distant and doesn't talk to me like we use to. She talks to all our other friends. I don't know why. I'm feeling very lonely...and jealous. Our friends became only her friends. They criticize me and she follows along. Every time I walk away, I feel like they're talking about me.
Our school has a newspaper department. My friend is the captain. Two days ago, she wrote a letter and posted it on the newspaper. It was exactly how I was feeling. I finally thought she realized what she was doing to me. But, she didn't. She told me it wasn't about me, but one of "our" friends. I don't know what to do now. Should I stop being friends with her? I don't want to loose her... She brightens my day. Please help...
Hey, fellow Star! Thanks for dropping by!I'm sorry for replying so late.
DeleteSo, funny thing is I feel like I can relate to you. I'm just like your friend on the other end than you in this scenario. Sometimes, people just need to communicate a bit more.I feel that my friend is starting to be a bit more different than me... Not just in one way, but many. She's always doing her own thing, causing us to talk less than usual.
It's definitely true that friends brighten up each others days.Don't loose her over any reason.
You said that your friend starts hanging out with all of your other friends,but maybe she needs to talk about things more. Maybe you hung out with other friends before, she might have felt what you are feeling now. She got over it, but not exactly. While people go through changes, it affects their mood and everything they feel. Your friend needs you, just like how you need her.
You say that she is talking about you behind her back. Maybe she has a surprise for you. Or it's just maybe that your other friends who became her friend, can understand each other in certain topics?
About the newspaper, your friend may have been scared to tell you. Humans have emotions. They can be stubborn, afraid, lonely, or jealous. I bet you make her feel like that sometimes, but most of the time you make her feel buoyant, cheerful, sunny, and most importantly, making her laugh.
I hope this helped you! :)
~Kiku
P.S. I'm just kinda curious. Do people post letters in school newspapers?
Kiku,
DeleteMy friend did lighten up to me for a while. But now, everyone one else is turning against me. My friend is slowly going over to their side. I don't know if I should just let her go or should I chase after her. I need your help again!
Dear Kiku,
ReplyDeleteHello! How are you? I really don't want to reveal my name so you can call me Chance- cause I've always loved that name. I've just started 7th grade. It's been very good. But, I feel like I'm hurting my best friend. I have many other friends in the school. Lately, I've been hanging out with them. I feel like I'm leaving my best friend behind. I'm the type of person who HATES to apologize. I've tried to have her join into our conversations, but all of my friends really hate her. Also, she's been hanging out with a person that left me because she found out I cut. What should I do? Please help!
Well, how are you Chance?
DeleteI know that it's hard dealing with friends like that. I'm not one to apologize each other. I just can't; I have a complex.
But onto what you want help on. I'm so sorry that this is so late. I hope you guys are friendly at the moment. I might be too late, but invite her over to your house and just start to dance along to music. It doesn't matter if you don't know how to dance, just jump and move around. That's how me and one girl in my class are like bestfriends now. She and I were kinda in a war zone, but laughs should be able to change it.
I know that life might be hard for you but maybe cutting isn't the best. Harm isn't as good as feeling. You can fake smiles until it's real. I've also found books and tv shows as a great replacement to get out of this world. Talking to your friend may get random outbursts of laughter like finding a funny photo to share.
If anything else occurs, you can email me at starryanswerbox@gmail.com
CHANCE! I'm sorry we're late we really are but have you though about why you like that name so much? Chance, you were given a chance to live in life. Life has up and downs that aren't easy. People will turn on you and people will stand with you. Regardless of how long you've known them things can still happen. I used to think cutting was the only choice also but the problem was a lot different. I think people who cut are all connected somehow. I've been there it wasn't exactly my ray of sunshine but maybe all you need to do it just sit down and breath, draw a picture, write a journal entry. If they left you because of the fact you cut..Don't apologize. Stand up, wipe your tears, throw away those blades, roll up your sleeves and smile. Sure your parents and teachers will find out one day but it's a matter of time. If they won't be your friend because you cut then I will. No matter where you are in the world, how you look, how you act, your academic grades, nothing. I will stand by you in heart and soul so stand up and smile. You don't need any more negative intake because of your so called "friends". People call people like this "not your real friends" because we know practically nothing about each other and it's online but sometimes I feel like internet friendship is the most powerful. Don't apologize but smile at them and say "Thanks! Now I know who my real friends are" then walk away and smile even wider because you reached the next step in life of becoming your own person. I'll support you...
Delete~Yuki